AboutMirror and Flame

Coming home to yourself isn't a destination—it's a return to what you've always been.

Why I Created This Work

For most of my life, I lived by rules that were never mine.

I learned early that love came with conditions and lies—that I had to perform, achieve, and shrink to be acceptable. I became a master shape-shifter, adjusting myself to fit whatever I thought others needed me to be. I gave until I was empty, silenced my needs, and dismissed my intuition because trusting myself felt more dangerous than abandoning myself.

The path back to myself wasn't linear. It wasn't found in a single book, workshop, or breakthrough moment. It happened through daily, courageous acts of seeing myself clearly—witnessing the beliefs I inherited, understanding the patterns I developed to survive, and remembering the truth of who I'd always been beneath it all.

Mirror and Flame emerged from this journey. It's the container I wish I'd had—trauma-informed, body-based, and honest about the messy, non-linear reality of coming home to yourself.

My Approach

As a Mental Projector in Human Design, I see systems and patterns clearly. My gift isn't in pushing or forcing transformation—it's in witnessing, reflecting, and helping you see what's been hidden in plain sight.

I'm not a licensed therapist or certified coach, and I want to be transparent about that. What I offer through Mirror and Flame is:

  • •A carefully crafted 30-day workbook journey based on my own deep healing work
  • •Trauma-informed content that honors survival mechanisms as wisdom
  • •Optional witnessing calls (purchased separately) where I hold space for your process with compassion and clarity
  • •A guide who has walked this path and can reflect what I see in your journey

Important: This work is designed to complement therapy, not replace it. If you're dealing with acute mental health concerns, please work with a licensed professional.

The Three-Mirror Framework

Your journey unfolds through three distinct mirrors, each revealing a different layer of truth

Days 1-10: The Inner Mirror

Self-Love

We begin by examining your relationship with yourself—how you learned to love conditionally, distrust your inner voice, and hide your needs.

Days 11-20: The Outer Mirror

Self-Worth

We explore how your inner beliefs manifest in relationships—the disappearing, people-pleasing, and settling for less than you deserve.

Days 21-30: The Worldview Mirror

Self-Sovereignty

We look at how larger systems shaped your sense of safety and belonging, and how you can reclaim your power to live on your own terms.

Optional: Add three 1-hour private witnessing calls at Days 10, 20, and 30 for personalized integration support.

What I Believe

You were never broken.

The patterns you developed were brilliant survival strategies. This work isn't about fixing you—it's about seeing yourself clearly and choosing what still serves you.

Your body holds wisdom.

Healing isn't just cognitive. Each day includes somatic practices because your nervous system needs to feel safe enough to release old patterns.

This work requires courage.

Looking at yourself honestly isn't easy. But you won't be doing it alone. Every page is designed to hold you with compassion while you do this brave work.

Coming home to yourself is worth it.

Even when it's hard. Even when it brings up grief. Even when choosing yourself costs you relationships that required you to stay small.

Who This Work Is For

Mirror and Flame is for you if you:

  • Are tired of performing versions of yourself to keep others comfortable
  • Recognize patterns repeating but don't know how to break them
  • Feel disconnected from your own needs, voice, or intuition
  • Are willing to look at uncomfortable truths with compassion
  • Want to stop abandoning yourself and finally come home

This isn't for people seeking quick fixes or surface-level affirmations. This is deep, honest work for those ready to see themselves clearly.

Let's Walk This Path Together

The 30-day workbook is a complete, standalone journey. If you want additional support, you can add private witnessing calls at Days 10, 20, and 30—sacred spaces where you'll be truly seen as you integrate what you've discovered.

The workbook gives you everything you need. The calls offer something deeper.