Mirror and Flame
Come Home to Yourself
"What if the true love you've been searching for begins by finally seeing yourself clearly?"
A 30-day journey through the mirrors of self-love, self-worth, and self-sovereignty that helps you remember who you've always been beneath the patterns you learned to survive.
Optional: Add three 1-hour private witnessing calls with Emily for deeper integration support
Why Mirror and Flame?
30 Days of Deep Work
Not surface-level affirmations, but courageous inner exploration
Optional Personal Guidance
Add three 1-hour witnessing calls for deeper integration support
Trauma-Informed Approach
Gentle, compassionate work that honors your survival wisdom
Accessible Anywhere
Digital format works on phone, tablet, or computer
The Three Mirrors: Your Path Home
This 30-day journey unfolds through three transformative phases, each revealing a different reflection of who you truly are. Optional witnessing calls at Days 10, 20, and 30 provide personalized integration support.
Days 1-10: The Inner Mirror
Self-Love
Discover the beliefs that shaped how you see yourself and begin the journey of reclaiming your authentic truth.
You'll explore:
- •How you learned to love only "acceptable" parts of yourself
- •The ways you disconnected from your inner voice and intuition
- •Why needing feels dangerous and how to reclaim your humanity
- •The difference between earning love and receiving it
Optional Integration Call at Day 10
Add personalized support to process your discoveries
Days 11-20: The Outer Mirror
Self-Worth
Witness how your inner world reflects in every relationship and learn to stop abandoning yourself for connection.
You'll explore:
- •How you disappear in relationships to maintain belonging
- •Why you hide your emotions and true needs from others
- •The pattern of settling for crumbs instead of the feast
- •How normalizing mistreatment keeps you small
Optional Integration Call at Day 20
Add personalized support to witness your patterns
Days 21-30: The Worldview Mirror
Self-Sovereignty
Understand how the world taught you to survive and reclaim your sovereignty to finally live on your own terms.
You'll explore:
- •Why safety feels like surrender and softness feels dangerous
- •The trap of tying your worth to achievement and productivity
- •How control became your survival strategy
- •The price of choosing yourself when it costs relationships
Optional Integration Call at Day 30
Add personalized support to celebrate and anchor your transformation
What Each Day Brings
This isn't quick-fix self-help. This is courageous inner work that requires your presence, honesty, and willingness to see yourself clearly. Each day is designed to meet you with compassion while inviting you deeper.
Inspirational Quote
An original quote that speaks directly to the day's theme
Nurturing Introduction
Understanding the "why" behind your patterns
Journaling Prompts
Deep questions to gently excavate your protective patterns
Reflection Exercise
Recognize how patterns show up in your daily life
Somatic Practice
Body-based exercises to integrate new ways of being
Most people spend 20-40 minutes with each day's content, though some days may ask more of you. Honor your own pace.
Preview: Day 4
Experience the depth and compassion of this work
Day 4: The Deepest Cut: When You Learn to Stop Needing
"Your needs are not burdens to be hidden—they are bridges to authentic connection."
This belief strikes at the very foundation of self-love, creating a wound that shapes how you move through the world. When your emotional, physical, or spiritual needs were dismissed, criticized, or met with chaos in your formative years, your brilliant survival mind made a devastating calculation: needing anything is dangerous.
So you learned to become smaller. To want less. To need nothing at all.
This survival strategy becomes a prison. You silence your voice, anticipate everyone else's needs while ignoring your own, and push through exhaustion until you collapse—then wonder in bewilderment why you feel so alone and unseen...
You'll Be Asked:
- •What messages did I receive about expressing needs as a child? Who taught me that needing was "too much"?
- •How do I feel in my body when I think about asking for help or support from others?
- •In what ways do I give endlessly to others while denying my own need to receive?
You'll Reflect On:
Where you consistently prioritize others' needs while dismissing your own—like always being the friend others call in crisis but never reaching out when you're struggling, or saying "I'm fine" when you're clearly not to avoid being seen as high-maintenance.
You'll Practice:
A somatic exercise called "Opening to Receive"—lying down with palms facing up, learning to let your body be supported without effort, practicing the radical act of receiving rather than always giving.
This work requires courage. It asks you to look at what you've been avoiding. But you won't be doing it alone—every step is held with deep compassion.
Join the Founding Circle
Mirror and Flame is now welcoming its founding members—the brave souls who will be the first to walk this path and help shape this work through their honest feedback.
As a Founding Member, You'll Receive:
- Complete 30-day workbook program with all daily content - $197
- Optional: Add three 1-hour private witnessing calls for deeper integration support
- Founding member pricing (will increase after beta period)
- Lifetime access to all future updates and improvements
- The opportunity to contribute feedback that shapes this program
Your testimonial may be featured here in the future (with your permission), helping others find their way home to themselves.
Common Questions
How much time does each day require?
Most people spend 20-40 minutes with each day's content—reading the introduction, journaling with the prompts, and practicing the somatic exercise. Some days may ask more of you when they touch on deeper wounds. This isn't a quick-fix program; it's courageous inner work that deserves your full presence.
What if I miss a day?
This is self-paced work. Life happens, and some days require more time for integration than others. You can continue where you left off or revisit previous days. Your access never expires, so you can move at the pace that honors your process.
How do the three witnessing calls work?
After completing Days 10, 20, and 30, you'll schedule a private 1-hour Zoom call with Emily. These are sacred spaces for processing what you've uncovered, honoring your courage, and integrating your discoveries before moving forward. You'll receive scheduling information immediately after purchase.
Is this a replacement for therapy?
No. Mirror and Flame is a self-guided personal development program and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you're dealing with serious mental health concerns, please work with a qualified therapist. This program can complement therapeutic work beautifully.
Ready to See Yourself Clearly?
You've been searching for love in all the outer places. What if it's been waiting inside you all along?
This isn't about fixing what's broken—because you were never broken. It's about remembering who you've always been beneath the patterns you learned to survive.
The 30-Day Workbook Includes:
- 30 days of deep inner work through the three mirrors
- Daily journaling prompts, reflections, and somatic practices
- Trauma-informed guidance honoring your survival wisdom
- Lifetime access to all content and future updates
+ Optional: Add three 1-hour witnessing calls for personalized support
Starting at $197
Founding member pricing (will increase after beta period)
Questions? Email [EMILY_EMAIL_PLACEHOLDER] - Emily personally responds to every message